Why Do I Feel Tired and Empty on the Inside?
Feeling tired and empty on the inside is a yucky feeling I don’t wish on anyone. But sometimes we get there when we are not happy with the circumstances in our life.
I felt this way when I was newly sober and then again when I was newly divorced. I came to discover overtime the reason why I felt this way was because I wasn’t taking care of myself. I was last on my priority list.
As women, we have a tendency to play Superwomen. We tend to everyone else’s needs but not to our own. What I have come to learn overtime is that I need to take care of myself first and then the needs of others. This is totally opposite of how most women were raised and society’s view of women as caretakers.
Some may be thinking: “Isn’t that a bit selfish?”
Yes and let me explain why it’s good to be selfish with your time.
What I know today is that if I don’t take care of myself physically, I don’t have another effective way to minimize stress in my life. It minimizes stress coming out sideways; like being impatient with my daughter when we’re trying to rush out the door. Also, exercise gives me endurance and energy … I can do more in my life.
For me, taking care of myself mentally is reading a book or playing a game of Suduko. I need to make time for what keeps me mentally stimulated and is enjoyable. I find it keeps me focused on getting done in the evening around the house; because I know I will have some of my mental downtime for about 20 minute of time each night.
Sharing with Grand Dude or a girlfriend about what is going on in my life is how I take care of myself emotionally. This is the great stuff that goes on in my life and the not so great stuff. Although I may not get any answers to the problem I’m dealing with at the moment. A problem shared is half a problem. This ensures that I don’t stuff my feelings deep inside. For me this is most evident by sound sleeping patterns; I rarely wake up in the middle of the night.
Taking care of myself spiritually finds me having a quiet time each morning for prayer or meditation. It centers me, grounds me and reconnects me with The Big Guy. It is part of my daily routine of getting ready in the morning.
Some people reading this may say to themselves; I don’t have the time. What I can tell you from my own personal experience; is that when I make myself a priority in my life. I am energized, a lot happier to be around and can accomplish more in less time.