When did you realize that you lost the essence of who you were during your marriage?
It’s painful to realize that you lost the ability to feel somewhere along the years of your marriage. To realize that you are numb to what is going on around you is an empty and lonely feeling.
You CAN reclaim your SELF back.
I didn’t realize I had lost myself until after I was divorced. With my married life over I was hopeful of the beginning of a new chapter for myself, and for my daughter. It took a few months before I started feeling emotions, ones that I hadn’t felt for a long time.
I will never forget the evening I sat watching a comedy show on TV and laughing. It was one of the heartfelt laughs that I had lost many years ago. It was at that very moment that I realized I was healing, and starting to get reconnected with myself, and my feelings. It was at that very moment that I understood how much of myself I had given away.
The path of reclaiming SELF is a journey of self-exploration to understand which values are important to you, what motivates you, and the direction your life needs to take. It is a wonderful journey but it takes focus, and it takes action.
As I began to heal I recognized that in my marriage I had made many decisions that compromised values that where once important to me in ‘attempts’ to ‘make the marriage work’. There were situations that bothered me; but I elected to turn my head rather than discuss them. Repeatedly doing this over the years, I had essentially given up who I was … and of course, he then wondered what happened to the fun-loving woman he married. I also began to wonder what had happened to her, as well.
Today, I have a wonderful life that other people are attracted to. I have been blessed with women who seek my assistance in helping to reclaiming their lives. They want what I have because they see in me a woman who knows who she is … a woman who knows what she values … a woman who knows where she is going in life. I wear my life like a loose garment and live a life of immense joy.