There is a friend who approached me a while ago. She had come across my website on her own and joined up. As we were sharing, she mentioned that she had reached the crossroads in her marriage when she was contemplating divorce. She figured that since I talk about my divorce on Huffington Post, I wouldn’t have any problems talking to her about what she’s going through.
And she was Right!
We talked for a bit about some of her reasons for divorce; she was in counseling and was just beginning the journey of looking inward at her motives for ending her marriage. We talked about there is no need to rush the decision; she needed to come to terms with what the best path was for her.
Over the past several months we would see each other on a frequent basis, we both knew if she felt the need to talk I would be here for her. So we never discussed where she was at in the process.
Tonight she shared that after many months, she decided to move forward with the divorce and had already talked with her husband. What impressed me so much was the weight that has been lifted from her shoulders; she was at peace with her decision and it showed.
I am so happy for her and it has nothing to do what her decision is. I am happy for her because she took action to change her current circumstances when it wasn’t working for her anymore. It wasn’t a knee jerk reaction and she didn’t spin for years and years asking ‘What should I do?’
She has Courage!
And you can bet it was a painful process and decision. But she didn’t allow the pain to stop her; she pushed through it to make a decision that was right for her. She has a dream to live free of the emotional pain she has been enduring through her marriage for years. She is taking the first steps to realizing her dream.
As we were discussing what was going on with some of the details of what she and her husband are going through; she had compassion for her Ex. I offered up some pieces of advice that worked for me during my divorce and is the reason why my Ex and I have an amicable relationship today instead of ending in a bitter divorce.
I ended my conversation with her by sharing that every year I celebrate May 4th because it is the anniversary of my divorce. My celebration really has nothing to do with my Ex; it is a celebration of my new life. For my dream has come true time and time again; I stepped into joy.